:? why did you not give importance to your marriage? WHY?

is there any acceptable reasons to break your marriage???I have a wife, we are married in church and we have a 2 yr- old kid, the problem is my wife doesnt want me anymore to be her husband because of personal and emotional problems..."nobody is perfect" right? if you done something wrong and all i need to do is say "sorry" and promise not to do it anymore, but she refuses to fix our family and it seems she doesnt know whats the importance of marriage and a complete family...im thinking about is my son right now, ive never been in a broken family but im giving my son this kind situation.nahihiya ako sa anak ko, parang hindi ko kayang magpakita sa kanya..ayokong masira pamilya ko eh, ill appreciate your advices that you will give me, i just cant think of any plausible reasons right now to justify the actions of my wife........

why what did you do?
did you do something wrong? please elaborate further this "personal and emotional" factor...is someone pressuring your wife to leave you? whats the main reason why your wife is leaving you? did she find someone new?(i hope not)
give us a brief history...so we'll know the situation, and from there maybe we can help you out. :rolleyes:

Just carry on life. There's nothing much you can do.

If the situation will seem awkward for you, then so be it. Can't even say it's a trend nowadays, but still, would you rather be a complete family but with contempt brewing?

Just give the best out to your kid.

nobody is a perfect person!!just keep this is mind for those who are reading this...tlagang bang vows sa harap nag dambana ay meant to be broken??hay hirap tlaga...im confussed...:?

maaaring nahihirapan ka na sa kakaisip at litong-lito ka na ngunit lagi mong tatandaan at iisipin na ang buhay may-asawa ay magtatagumpay lamang kung kayong mag-asawa ay magtutulungan at magbibigayan sa lahat ng oras. it takes two to tango ika nga. kung ikaw lang ang nais na magtagumpay ang inyong buhay mag-asawa at ayaw na ng asawa mo, e wala ka nang magagawa kundi tanggapin ang katotohanan. maaaring di talaga kayo para sa isat-isa.

walang acceptable reason. kung may problema, ayusin nyo. its not like the gf/bf relationship wherein you can always ask for a "break-up" pag di na satisfied ang isa. kaya nga pinagiisipang mabuti ang pagpapakasal eh.

umatend kayo ng religious orgs like couples for christ, etc. siguradong malaki ang maiiimprove nun sa relationship nyo.

walang acceptable reason. kung may problema, ayusin nyo. its not like the gf/bf relationship wherein you can always ask for a "break-up" pag di na satisfied ang isa. kaya nga pinagiisipang mabuti ang pagpapakasal eh.

umatend kayo ng religious orgs like couples for christ, etc. siguradong malaki ang maiiimprove nun sa relationship nyo.

ay agree with you pare at yun ang pilit kong pinaiintindi sa kanya na there is no such acceptable reasons talaga kasi kasal kame eh...im so desperate na kasi sobra, i dont wanna loose my family, i love my family so much..i just hope na sana may bumulong sa kanya na kung gaano ka importante sila sa akin..do you know where we could find people na nagbibigay nang advices to help us with our problem yung parang seminar ba? thank you nga pala at pinatatag mo ang paniniwala ko na kung gaano kahalaga ang kasal sa aming 2 na there is no such thing as acceptable reasons......

acceptable reasons to leave your husband......


>>>>for me ang acceptable reason to leave my husband is continous lies, cheating and having affair with other girls. pambubugbog rin. Once na na prove ko nag cheat sya I'll give him a warning the next time na gawin nya yan wala na talaga.

why did you not give importance to your marriage? WHY?

>>>>For me again, Di na baling mag-away kami bec of misunderstanding with regards to view in life and money matters natural lang yun sa mag asawa. But when it comes to having affairs, cheating etc.... which involves my trust to him eh kahit kasal kami kung di naman pinahahalagaan ng partner ko yun marriage namin bakit kailangan pa magsama. Lalo na pag wala ka na talaga trust sa kanya.
>>> everytime you say sorry dapat totoo. Hindi yun paulit ulit na sorry. Tapos after a few weeks back to old habit again.


..... We dont know your personal problem kung meron 3rd party kaya naging ganyan asawa mo? BUt if you really love your wife, you need to be more patient and understanding lalo na kung kasalanan mo. At you have to prove yourself din. Sana nga di pa huli ang lahat at kaya pa nya magtiwala sayo. Yan ay kung third party nga.

...Good luck!

acceptable reasons to leave your husband......


>>>>for me ang acceptable reason to leave my husband is continous lies, cheating and having affair with other girls. pambubugbog rin. Once na na prove ko nag cheat sya I'll give him a warning the next time na gawin nya yan wala na talaga.

why did you not give importance to your marriage? WHY?

>>>>For me again, Di na baling mag-away kami bec of misunderstanding with regards to view in life and money matters natural lang yun sa mag asawa. But when it comes to having affairs, cheating etc.... which involves my trust to him eh kahit kasal kami kung di naman pinahahalagaan ng partner ko yun marriage namin bakit kailangan pa magsama. Lalo na pag wala ka na talaga trust sa kanya.
>>> everytime you say sorry dapat totoo. Hindi yun paulit ulit na sorry. Tapos after a few weeks back to old habit again.


..... We dont know your personal problem kung meron 3rd party kaya naging ganyan asawa mo? BUt if you really love your wife, you need to be more patient and understanding lalo na kung kasalanan mo. At you have to prove yourself din. Sana nga di pa huli ang lahat at kaya pa nya magtiwala sayo. Yan ay kung third party nga.

...Good luck!


thank you ma'am for the great advice, actually ma'am it all started noong ipinanganak nya ang anak namin at dahil sa gusto namin maalagaan nang mabuti and we agreed na huminto ako sa aking trabaho tutal im just a casual employee and my wife is already a branch manager in a rtw store, in short mas reliable work nya kesa sa akin..the set up is ok for 6 months, ako nagaalaga sa anak namin and she goes to work..nakahanap kami na magaalaga nang anak namin and nagstart na problema.she started to pressure me to work eh hindi naman ganun kadali maghanap nang work ngayon diba kaya lagi namin pinagaawayan yun, and dahil sa lagi na nga away dumating ang point na lumayas sya sa tintirhan namin, hindi ko siya pinigilan para naman magkaroon kami nang space sa isat isa nang makapagisip. Tumagal yun for almost a month and dahil sa missed ko na magiina ko, gumawa ako nang paraan para magkaayos kami.i say sorry for the mistakes and mga pagkukulang ko...wala naman "PERPEKTONG" tao diba..pumayag ako sa gusto nya na pursigihin ko na magwork and nakahanap nga ako and started changing my way of life but inspite of what im doing is parang walang nagbago, she feels it to me na wala parin ako pakinabang sa kanya.. kinausap ko sya ulit sa napapansin ko sa kanya pero alam nyo kung ano sinagot?? tanungin ba naman sa akin na papayag ba daw ako na maghiwalay kami!!!tama ba naman yun!!!ibig sabihin balewala sa kanya mga efforts ko..that hurts me the most.BALEWALA!!kung tutuusin wala siyang sapat na dahilan na gawin nya sa akin yun na balewalain nya marriage namin..sa una pa lang dapat inintindi nya ako na baka naghahanap lang ako maganda work kaya natagalan, napagisp-isp ko tuloy na kung eh ngayon malakas ako at kaya ko magwork eh ginawa nya sa akin yun paano pa kaya kung halimbawa naaksidente ako tapos nabaldado eh di mas lalo malala baka pulutin ako sa basurahan itapon nya ako.im so fed up that night, galit na talaga ako.so i decided to walk away...dumaan ang months na hindi kami naguusap, nung mga months na yun feeling ko wala na talaga pagasa..alam ko kasi wala na ako pagkukulang sa kanya naibuhos ko na effort ko.

nang dahil siguro sa sobrang galit sa kanya at hindi ko na rin alam kung ano gagawin ko sa buhay ko nung mga panahon na yun ay nagkaroon ako nang affair sa ibang babae, at sobrang maalaga at mapagmahal and she knows my status that i have a wife and a son pero okey lang daw sa kanya dahil mahal nya ako..our relationship lasted for about 3 months, and one day that i didnt expected is biglang tumawag ang wife ko at nagmamakaawa na magkaayos na kami. but because naalala ko ginawa nya sa pagalipusta sa pagkatao ko ay hindi ko sya tinanggap and i even said to her about my other love ipinamukha ko sa kanya talaga, and i know im wrong on that at dahil sa galit nga hindi ko napigilan yun...napagisip-isip ko na mali na ipagpalit silang pamilya ko kaya napagpasyahan ko na kausapin na lamang ang kinakasama ko na mali ang ginagawa namin at naiintindihan naman nya yun.i called my wife and said sorry for what ive done and sinabi ko na dahilan dahil lang sa sobrang sama nang loob ko sa kanya at kailangan ko lang talaga nang masasandalan nang mga panahon na yun at naging marupok ako, pero ayun ayaw na nya talaga..and thats my problem now....


SAPAT NA BA ITO PARA TAPUSIN NA??KUNG MAGKAKAAYOS KAMI BABALIK PA KAYA ANG DATING PAGGALANG SA ISAT ISA??:?

*thanks for the replies...

The question is:

Should you and and your wife be together again, can you be comfortable with the fact that she'll always have misgivings? Will you accept that she might be paranoid and will lack trust in everything you do? Example: "Saan ka na naman pupunta?", "Ano oras ka na nakauwi? Siguro may babae ka na naman ano? At bakit hindi, nagawa mo na yan dati!".

I wish you well bro.

makasali na din...

1st thing you need to do is to start from 0 ( zero ) to win your wife's heart again., don't say any promises...just prove to her inch by inch that you're changing for best and try to make her forget what mistake you've done....

tol medyo matigas loob ng wife mo or talagang matigas...are you sure there is no 4rth party involved?

think all the possibilities tol

i hope you and your wife will be okay...just prove to her want you want..that's it...

the problem here is it is not Selidioben alone, it is also his wife.. consult a marriage counselor if you can bring her with you.... seldom a woman broke a relationship some are martyrs enough but your wife is not... there could be other reasons why she wants out.

tol medyo matigas loob ng wife mo or talagang matigas...are you sure there is no 4rth party involved?

meron din pagdududa na baka nga meron pero hindi na importante sa akin yun ngayon. i just want her to be back...alam mo ba yung feeling na pilit mo pinaiintindi sa kanya kung bakit hindi dapat na maghiwalay pero hindi nya maintindihan...naaawa ako sa anak ko eh...ayoko iparamdam sa kanya ang ganitong sitwasyon...sana man lang naisip nya yun.. ei meron ba kayong alam na marriage counsellor na pwedeng malapitan???

i hope you and your wife will be okay...just prove to her want you want..that's it...


i hope someone could tell her how important she is to me....and i pray na sana magbago isip at gawin nya ulit yung pagtawag nya at kausapin ako na makipagayos ulit, pero sana hindi pa huli ang lahat at mapanatili ko pa ang pagasa na magkakabalikan kami or hindi pa akong naguumpisa na mag move on sa buhay ko, sana mapigilan ko sarili ko.... sana lang!!!

meron din pagdududa na baka nga meron pero hindi na importante sa akin yun ngayon. i just want her to be back...alam mo ba yung feeling na pilit mo pinaiintindi sa kanya kung bakit hindi dapat na maghiwalay pero hindi nya maintindihan...naaawa ako sa anak ko eh...ayoko iparamdam sa kanya ang ganitong sitwasyon...sana man lang naisip nya yun.. ei meron ba kayong alam na marriage counsellor na pwedeng malapitan???

go to the nearest church and ask for members of couples for christ sigurado meron sila.

Try seeing a marriage counselor pare. Yun nga lang kung willing siyang makipag-ayos sayo.

Kung may pagkakataon kayong makapagusap, pagusapan niyo yung mga relevant issues sa marriage niyo at huwag na kayo magbanggit pa ng mga nakaraan.

May time talaga pare na ang tao na akala mo eh kilalang kilala mo ng lubusan tapos in the long run malalaman mo na lang na hindi pa pala. Kung talagang mahal mo siya, try hard to understand her pero kung wala pa rin, malamang siya na yung may problema dahil ayaw ka niyang intindihin.

Kung lahat na ginawa mo at wala pa rin, ibuhos mo na lang yung pagmamahal mo sa anak mo.

Goodluck sayo bro.

Try seeing a marriage counselor pare. Yun nga lang kung willing siyang makipag-ayos sayo.

Kung may pagkakataon kayong makapagusap, pagusapan niyo yung mga relevant issues sa marriage niyo at huwag na kayo magbanggit pa ng mga nakaraan.

May time talaga pare na ang tao na akala mo eh kilalang kilala mo ng lubusan tapos in the long run malalaman mo na lang na hindi pa pala. Kung talagang mahal mo siya, try hard to understand her pero kung wala pa rin, malamang siya na yung may problema dahil ayaw ka niyang intindihin.

Kung lahat na ginawa mo at wala pa rin, ibuhos mo na lang yung pagmamahal mo sa anak mo.

Goodluck sayo bro.


nagbago na sya pare,, kapag kausap ko sya i felt like i didnt know her anymore, parang ibang tao pre...:?

try mo ipatawag yung mga parents niya and ask for help or ask your priest or pastor to intervene between you and her. let your priest/pastor call her and ask for a dialogue between you and her--with the presence of somebody who can mediate and help you out in your marriage crisis.

think of it this way, put Christ in the center of your marriage and everything will work out.
---imagine a zipper, Christ acts like the mechanism that binds both sides (both of you) together. if you close the zipper, it binds both sides together--if you open the zipper, it looses both sides.
this was the sermon i couldn't forget during our marriage 8 years ago.

goodluck:s

hmmm... mukhang na-fall out of love na yun wife mo bro.... whatever reasons you have, malamang meron din reasons yun wife mo kung bakit ganon and the way she is reacting... possible na may iba na sya mahal... well sad to say... mahirap na ang ganyan sitwasyon... major change on your part and you have to court her again.... parang nag-uumpisa ulit ikaw.. ask ko lang.. newly wed ba kayo? how old are you both? ilang years na ba kayo kasal? yan ang problema talaga kung ang lalaki ay di kaya ibigay ang pangangailangan ng babae... sad to say.. yun ang reality ng pag-aasawa eh...

bro parang namamangka sa dalawang ilog misis mo? simple lang problema nyo pero gusto nya maghiwalay na kayo?.......

:? why did you not give importance to your marriage? WHY?

is there any acceptable reasons to break your marriage???I have a wife, we are married in church and we have a 2 yr- old kid, the problem is my wife doesnt want me anymore to be her husband because of personal and emotional problems..."nobody is perfect" right? if you done something wrong and all i need to do is say "sorry" and promise not to do it anymore, but she refuses to fix our family and it seems she doesnt know whats the importance of marriage and a complete family...im thinking about is my son right now, ive never been in a broken family but im giving my son this kind situation.nahihiya ako sa anak ko, parang hindi ko kayang magpakita sa kanya..ayokong masira pamilya ko eh, will appreciate your advices that you will give me, i just cant think of any plausible reasons right now to justify the actions of my wife........


-give her what she want...maybe she'll realize soon the husband and the family she is loosing...give her time to think over, maybe she is just confused.

-is there something that you did that shattered her heart? you won't expect a wife to be understanding forever...maybe her pride was damaged.

-you can't at this time push her to have you back especially if she is in the fit of anger...anger kept in her heart...wait to settle all things and let the boiling water cool down...

-you just can't have everything perfect...be ready to accept any outcome- this maybe positive or negative. Life is not a bed of roses...you have to be strong...married life is a survival of the fittiest..:*

i think this time ang may problema eh babae ,sabihin mo mag log on sa mcp ng ma advisan dito sa ladies forum

" it takes two to tango " sa buhay mag-asawa applicable yan..based on your stories bro its your mistake..you let this to happened..at first you must put yourself into a position where you should be, partly tama ka na sya magtrabaho at ikaw mag-alaga dahil mas stable yung job nya..but not the best desicion you 've made..you know the rules bro..

ang hirap kasi bakit marriage license lang walang renewal..

for me the effort you've been doing just to save your marriage is good enough..for the sake of your family gaya ng sabi mo..but you forgot na inside the family me love, trust and harmony..nage-exist pa ba yun ngayon yun? if not then you cannot call it a family..kahit pa sabihin mong nagsasama pa kayo with your child..
first ask yourself, do i still love my wife? not i love my family? madaling sabihin yun at gawing excuse..if you do then find ways to win her back..wag kang susuko..face the consenquences..till saan mo kaya..believe me feelings get tired din at kusang sumusuko..when it happened to you then its an indication to stop..let go of that feeling..start anew..life must go on..you can still be a father without a wife..
do not force your wife to go back in your arms when she doesnt want to..believe me bro magiging alipin ka lng nya..magiging reason nya yung pagpilit mong bumalik sya sayo to control your marriage life..besides nawala na yung full trust both on your part..maybe to include the love..important factors yun sa buhay mag-asawa..
best thing na magagawa mo now is to pick up the pieces that has been shattered to your life..pilitin mong me mabago sa buhay mo..sa lahat ng aspeto..show her that you can be a good father and a husband perhaps..
kung ano pa man ang reasons nya not allowing you to come back..respect it.
time will heal bro..its not the end of life..
if you love your child dont just stop there..you've shown your efforts and yet ayaw nya..consider things narin..she might not love you anymore..kaya ganon sya katigas..

but again this is just an opinion bro..yung best descision will be yours parin..

and dont forget marriage life is a package deal..lahat ng mali ,tama,maganda, pangit, kulang at sobra di lng tinatanggap bagkus iniintindi..

no love, trust, harmony and peace of mind enough reasons for me not to continue living with my partner..

walang acceptable reason sir! kaya lang may situation na dapat minsan kailangan ka ng iwanan ng asawa mo. maaaring hindi mo nagagmpanan ang pagiging asawa at ama sa isang pamilya, kaya naghahanap sya at maaaring nakita nya ito sa ibang tao. pero wag naman sana! then, pwede ring binubugbug ng lalaki ang babae, kaya kailangan nya na itong iwan. pero kung alam mo na hindi mo naman lahat ginagawa sa asawa ang lahat mga reason na sinabi ko. hindi pa huli ang lahat para sayo. kailangan nyo lang pagusapan ang mga problema. kung gusto mo talagang tumagal at ma e save ang pamilya mo. gumawa ka ng tama at gampanan mo ang dapat mong gampanan. huwag kang sumoko sir! kung gusto may paraan kung ayaw may dahilan. good luck bro! kaya mo yan!

" it takes two to tango " sa buhay mag-asawa applicable yan..based on your stories bro its your mistake..you let this to happened..at first you must put yourself into a position where you should be, partly tama ka na sya magtrabaho at ikaw mag-alaga dahil mas stable yung job nya..but not the best desicion you 've made..you know the rules bro..

ang hirap kasi bakit marriage license lang walang renewal..

for me the effort you've been doing just to save your marriage is good enough..for the sake of your family gaya ng sabi mo..but you forgot na inside the family me love, trust and harmony..nage-exist pa ba yun ngayon yun? if not then you cannot call it a family..kahit pa sabihin mong nagsasama pa kayo with your child..
first ask yourself, do i still love my wife? not i love my family? madaling sabihin yun at gawing excuse..if you do then find ways to win her back..wag kang susuko..face the consenquences..till saan mo kaya..believe me feelings get tired din at kusang sumusuko..when it happened to you then its an indication to stop..let go of that feeling..start anew..life must go on..you can still be a father without a wife..
do not force your wife to go back in your arms when she doesnt want to..believe me bro magiging alipin ka lng nya..magiging reason nya yung pagpilit mong bumalik sya sayo to control your marriage life..besides nawala na yung full trust both on your part..maybe to include the love..important factors yun sa buhay mag-asawa..
best thing na magagawa mo now is to pick up the pieces that has been shattered to your life..pilitin mong me mabago sa buhay mo..sa lahat ng aspeto..show her that you can be a good father and a husband perhaps..
kung ano pa man ang reasons nya not allowing you to come back..respect it.
time will heal bro..its not the end of life..
if you love your child dont just stop there..you've shown your efforts and yet ayaw nya..consider things narin..she might not love you anymore..kaya ganon sya katigas..

but again this is just an opinion bro..yung best descision will be yours parin..

and dont forget marriage life is a package deal..lahat ng mali ,tama,maganda, pangit, kulang at sobra di lng tinatanggap bagkus iniintindi..

no love, trust, harmony and peace of mind enough reasons for me not to continue living with my partner..


you enlighten me pre!!!thats what im thingking right know......thanks for the advice....

nagbago na sya pare,, kapag kausap ko sya i felt like i didnt know her anymore, parang ibang tao pre...:?

Tanuning mo kung meron na siyang ibang gusto. Dalawa lang naman yan pare eh, it's either may mahal na siyang iba or nagbago na feelings niya sayo.

I don't mean to be harsh pare pero bilang kaibigan, sinabi ko lang yung mga possibilities na walang halong bola just to make you feel better.

Sa totoo lang pare marami namang babae diyan na magmamahal at magaaruga ng higit pa sa asawa mo. It all depends on you kung kaya mong tanggapin na mawawala na siya sa buhay mo. Move on pare, but it will certainly take time. Steady ka lang bro chaka nandito naman ang tropa para tumulong.

Sa totoo lang pare marami namang babae diyan na magmamahal at magaaruga ng higit pa sa asawa mo. It all depends on you kung kaya mong tanggapin na mawawala na siya sa buhay mo. Move on pare, but it will certainly take time. Steady ka lang bro chaka nandito naman ang tropa para tumulong.


you cannot replace a good wife...just give her time to think things over...unless pakawalang babae ang misis nya....all he has to do now is gradually to move on with life...:*

Mahirap yan pare, pero mas mahirap pilitin ang ayaw, kung may sugat just give time to heal baka masyado pang sariwa, baka naman sobrang lalim ang nagawa mong sugat, kung simpleng dahilan lang kasi di basta aayaw ang ang wife mo kasi she's more on the loosing end than you are, maliban na lang kung may third party on her side, gawin mo lahat para maisalba ang marriage n'yo but in a nice way kung talagang ayaw palayain mo... kung talagang mahal ka n'ya walang dahilan para di kayo magkasundo...

Teka ilang taon na ba yung babae? parang imature pa sya ah. hindi mo ba masasabi sa kanya na hindi hiwalay ang solusyon sa magaang na problema? para sakin siguro me hangganan din ang marriage kasi kung talagang grabe na yung ginagawa nung isa at hindi na magbabago, yun na siguro ang pagkakataon na hiwalayan na. kesa naman pati yung isa ay makagawa nadin ng hindi maganda diba?! kawawa din ang bata. yun lang muna. :)

Bigyan mo sya ng FLOWER at GIft pra sa baby mo.Dont talk too much konting smile pra kay baby tong gift,alis na:C Strong personality ang misis mo,then lumaki pa ng konti ang ulo nya dahil sa pgmamakaawa mo:rolleyes: Baguhin mo ang STYLE at DISKARTE mo,kabisado na ksi nya ang moves mo kaya kahit magdrama kapa in front of her walang effect=b Kailangan mo munang iprove at ipakita na karapatdapat at kya mong maging masasandalang asawa at ama sa kanila,in a way na nandoon padin ang SELFRESPECT at hindi na aapakan ang PGKALALAKI mo:banana: Do something different like dalhan mo sya ng meryenda,ipaabot mo nalang sa secretary nya,wgkamunang mgpapakita,regaluhan mo sya ng bagay na may special memory ng romatikong pagmamahalan nyo dati,pra marefresh ang feeling nya sayo:L Do it several times ti'll my makita kang positive reaction(CORNY OO MAHAL MO EH:banana: )kaylangan kasing makuha mo muna ang attention at palambutin ng konti ang puso nya:L Then saka mo sya kausapin ngayon tungkol sa realationship nyo etc.ect,but remember yong selfrespect mo nandon padin:C

Amigo tama ka walang perpektong tao,ngkasala ka dahil nadin sa pag apak nya sa pgkalalaki mo.Pasalamat nga sya at hindi ka ng lalaki eh:D

Opinion kolang po ito at nirerespeto ko din po ang opinion ng lahat ng nagshare:clap:

Are you going back to the one who loves you or to the one you love? kung ako tatanungin dun ako sa mahal ako.

parang hindi ko na sya kayang abutin...parang feeling ko yumayabang or naiinsecure lang ako..naungusan na nya kase ako nang todong-todo with regarding sa work nya na parang nawalan na ako nang kompiyansa sa sarili ko....

*oi thank you nga pala sa mga replies nyo ha!!!!!dont you worry all for the meantime tinatatatagan ko sarili ko na wag bumitaw and i assure you i will post here whatever the outcome may be...

thank you ma'am for the great advice, actually ma'am it all started noong ipinanganak nya ang anak namin at dahil sa gusto namin maalagaan nang mabuti and we agreed na huminto ako sa aking trabaho tutal im just a casual employee and my wife is already a branch manager in a rtw store, in short mas reliable work nya kesa sa akin..the set up is ok for 6 months, ako nagaalaga sa anak namin and she goes to work..nakahanap kami na magaalaga nang anak namin and nagstart na problema.she started to pressure me to work eh hindi naman ganun kadali maghanap nang work ngayon diba kaya lagi namin pinagaawayan yun, and dahil sa lagi na nga away dumating ang point na lumayas sya sa tintirhan namin, hindi ko siya pinigilan para naman magkaroon kami nang space sa isat isa nang makapagisip. Tumagal yun for almost a month and dahil sa missed ko na magiina ko, gumawa ako nang paraan para magkaayos kami.i say sorry for the mistakes and mga pagkukulang ko...wala naman "PERPEKTONG" tao diba..pumayag ako sa gusto nya na pursigihin ko na magwork and nakahanap nga ako and started changing my way of life but inspite of what im doing is parang walang nagbago, she feels it to me na wala parin ako pakinabang sa kanya.. kinausap ko sya ulit sa napapansin ko sa kanya pero alam nyo kung ano sinagot?? tanungin ba naman sa akin na papayag ba daw ako na maghiwalay kami!!!tama ba naman yun!!!ibig sabihin balewala sa kanya mga efforts ko..that hurts me the most.BALEWALA!!kung tutuusin wala siyang sapat na dahilan na gawin nya sa akin yun na balewalain nya marriage namin..sa una pa lang dapat inintindi nya ako na baka naghahanap lang ako maganda work kaya natagalan, napagisp-isp ko tuloy na kung eh ngayon malakas ako at kaya ko magwork eh ginawa nya sa akin yun paano pa kaya kung halimbawa naaksidente ako tapos nabaldado eh di mas lalo malala baka pulutin ako sa basurahan itapon nya ako.im so fed up that night, galit na talaga ako.so i decided to walk away...dumaan ang months na hindi kami naguusap, nung mga months na yun feeling ko wala na talaga pagasa..alam ko kasi wala na ako pagkukulang sa kanya naibuhos ko na effort ko.

nang dahil siguro sa sobrang galit sa kanya at hindi ko na rin alam kung ano gagawin ko sa buhay ko nung mga panahon na yun ay nagkaroon ako nang affair sa ibang babae, at sobrang maalaga at mapagmahal and she knows my status that i have a wife and a son pero okey lang daw sa kanya dahil mahal nya ako..our relationship lasted for about 3 months, and one day that i didnt expected is biglang tumawag ang wife ko at nagmamakaawa na magkaayos na kami. but because naalala ko ginawa nya sa pagalipusta sa pagkatao ko ay hindi ko sya tinanggap and i even said to her about my other love ipinamukha ko sa kanya talaga, and i know im wrong on that at dahil sa galit nga hindi ko napigilan yun...napagisip-isip ko na mali na ipagpalit silang pamilya ko kaya napagpasyahan ko na kausapin na lamang ang kinakasama ko na mali ang ginagawa namin at naiintindihan naman nya yun.i called my wife and said sorry for what ive done and sinabi ko na dahilan dahil lang sa sobrang sama nang loob ko sa kanya at kailangan ko lang talaga nang masasandalan nang mga panahon na yun at naging marupok ako, pero ayun ayaw na nya talaga..and thats my problem now....


SAPAT NA BA ITO PARA TAPUSIN NA??KUNG MAGKAKAAYOS KAMI BABALIK PA KAYA ANG DATING PAGGALANG SA ISAT ISA??:?

*thanks for the replies...

>>>>naku nangbabae ka nga!

Actually, mahirap sagutin kung sapat ba or hindi. Because dumaan ang asawa mo sa pag hihintay na umayos ang buhay nyo to the point na madalas kayo mag away di ba? Sana yun nag cool off kayo lalo ka sanang nagsikap mag trabaho, kaysa sa mag hanap ng ibang babae.
Para kang naghiganti sa asawa mo pero di mo naisip eh yan sisira sa pagsasama nyo.

Sana mahal ka pa din ng asawa mo para mapatawad ka.

Sya lang ang makakasagot sa lahat.

Maybe you should try to exert more effort na mapakita sa wife mo na mahal mo sya and willing to be responsible.

Goodluck again.

ang hirap kasi bakit marriage license lang walang renewal..


oo nga noh bakit nga ba walang renewal para incase na di ka na masaya sa partner mo pwedeng mapaso na yung marriage license.

>>>>naku nangbabae ka nga!

Actually, mahirap sagutin kung sapat ba or hindi. Because dumaan ang asawa mo sa pag hihintay na umayos ang buhay nyo to the point na madalas kayo mag away di ba? Sana yun nag cool off kayo lalo ka sanang nagsikap mag trabaho, kaysa sa mag hanap ng ibang babae.
Para kang naghiganti sa asawa mo pero di mo naisip eh yan sisira sa pagsasama nyo.

Sana mahal ka pa din ng asawa mo para mapatawad ka.

Sya lang ang makakasagot sa lahat.

Maybe you should try to exert more effort na mapakita sa wife mo na mahal mo sya and willing to be responsible.

Goodluck again.


actually ma,am kung sa akin lang on a good side naman po yung nagawa ko na pagkakamali kase sa totoo lng basag na basag ang buhay ko nung panahon na yun at kung hindi siguro dumating sa buhay ko ang babae na yun ay malamang wala kayong marereplayan na thread na to, kumbaga naisalba nya ako sa kung anuman mang masamang mangyayari pa, and i thank her for that...pero mali talaga ako dun at naging marupok and now im suffering on for what ive done, here comes "KARMA" i think...right know i am on a process of what will i do and sana hindi pa huli ang lahat....

Kailangan tripple ang effort para bumalik ang love ng esmi mo kaw naman po kasi nag chicks ka pa nadagdagan tuloy ang problema may mga asawa kasi once or twice na nawala ang trust nila sa asawa mahirap ng maibalik yun magigig lamat na sa inyong pag-sasama yun although may ilan din na nakakaunawa mga modern teenage wifey hehehe.....

Ilan taon na ba ang esmi mo at ikaw para naman magkaruon ng idea regarding maturity....sa akin lang bro medyo may mali din sa esmi mo dapat di niya pinamukha sayo na porket siya nagtra-trabaho at nag-aalaga ka lang ng bata di ibig sabihin nun ayaw mo na magtrabaho kaya nga mag-asawa eh "for better for worst till death do you part" hahaha naalala ko pa nung ikinasal ako ah.

Dude the best thing to do is to consult with marriage counselor or any intity capable in providing you advices sa amin kasi best on personal experience...

Sana maayos na yan if not let go mahirap kasi sa isang marriage na isa lang nagmamahal lalo na pag nawala na ang init ng pagmamahal.

Kailangan tripple ang effort para bumalik ang love ng esmi mo kaw naman po kasi nag chicks ka pa nadagdagan tuloy ang problema may mga asawa kasi once or twice na nawala ang trust nila sa asawa mahirap ng maibalik yun magigig lamat na sa inyong pag-sasama yun although may ilan din na nakakaunawa mga modern teenage wifey hehehe.....

Ilan taon na ba ang esmi mo at ikaw para naman magkaruon ng idea regarding maturity....sa akin lang bro medyo may mali din sa esmi mo dapat di niya pinamukha sayo na porket siya nagtra-trabaho at nag-aalaga ka lang ng bata di ibig sabihin nun ayaw mo na magtrabaho kaya nga mag-asawa eh "for better for worst till death do you part" hahaha naalala ko pa nung ikinasal ako ah.

Dude the best thing to do is to consult with marriage counselor or any intity capable in providing you advices sa amin kasi best on personal experience...

Sana maayos na yan if not let go mahirap kasi sa isang marriage na isa lang nagmamahal lalo na pag nawala na ang init ng pagmamahal.


im only 26 sir and shes 26... 6 years kaming mag-on and because we felt that we really love each other and so we decided to get married..3 years married na po sir...:)

Oic matagal na rin pala ang relationship niyo when finally both of you decide to get married matagal na rin yung 3 years na pinagsamahan niyo bilang mag-asawa :o

Mas bata pa nga ako nag-asawa pero ok ang relationship namin ni esmi getting stronger pa rin :clap:
Kung mahal mo talaga mrs mo at gusto mo maibalik ang pagmamahal niya kailangan ibayong sakripisyo bro isipin mo na lang yung anak niyo pag lumaki siyang broken family mahirap maiisip din niya yun pagdating ng araw alang-alang sa anak niyo ;)

If not yatttaap.

IVE DECIDED!!ill just have to set her free, shes a different person right now,,nabago na sya nang panahon, hindi na sya ang babaeng pinakasalan ko at minahal ko...napagisip isip ko eh kung magsasama kami ulit kami sa tingin nyo mababago pa tingin ko sa sarili ko?sa palagay ko hindi na...at yung ang magigng dahilan nang pagaaway namin ulit...well for me ill just have to accept it and i think hindi na ganun kahirap gawin yun..life must go on ika nga...and for my son i just hope that he will understand the truth pag nagkaisip na sya..

maraming salamat po sa mga advice nyo, naging malaking tulong sa akin ito..sa totoo lang mas maganda sana yung happy ending, yung magkakaayos kami, sino ba ang ayaw diba..pero talagang hindi na maaring mangyari yun eh..I GIVE UP!!!!

Well, i think GIVING UP is probably the best thing that you can do right now. Don't get me wrong, i know a lot of people might want to contradict this decision. But let's take this point by point.

Financially, your wife is the more stable between you two. You were just a casual employee before kaya nga both of you had decided that it was better for you to resign from work and help out na lang sa house. Okay naman ang ganitong set up if mutually agreed upon. However, the way I see it, medyo nagkaroon ng ibang feeling of "superiority" si wifey later on, probably nga because she was the one bringing in the dough. pero that's not a reason para hiwalayan ka. Probably she didn't find in you na din the drive to look for another job. Baka naman nakuntento ka na nga ng naging taong bahay ka. Siempre when you're tired from work, and you still shoulder all expenses at home, it can really be a cause for problems to erupt later on. Lalo pa pag umuwi shang nadatnan kang just watching tv, or playing with computer games lang. I'm not saying you're doing this, i'm just saying na baka naman laging idle ka lang and wlang effort to find work talga. Siempre, kahit pa you both agreed on this set up, dapat meron ding konting effort to help out financially.

Secondly, while things became a little irritating for her, and in some cases prbably had said things na masakit sa pagkatao mo, what you did naman was to find comfort in another girl's arms! That's just what made your set up even worse! Dapat din siguro, inintindi mo sha. Maaari kasing masasakit talga yung mga sinabi nya, pero bro, totoo naman ba or not? IF there's a tinge fo truth to it, then bear it.

Lest you forget, a wife dies a thousand death whenever a husband womanizes!

However, even when you totally drifted apart, and you decided to live in with your mistress, she tried winning you back pa din! Mahirap din yun for her, kasi ego na ang tatamaan dun, and yet she fought for the family din naman. PEro nagmatigas ka that time.

Reminder lang din, lahat ng mistresses ay sweet, malambing, caring, maasikaso. Yun naman talga papel ng mistresses eh. Because they know they are living on borrowed time. Siempre lahat ng maganda, ipapakita sa iyo nun and she would always make it glaring na mas okay sha sa wife mo. Subukan mong pakasalan yan, im sure later on she wont be that same girl na laging caring sa yo!

Now, your wife has just learned her lessons, and probably has begun loving herself more. Im not completely siding with your wife, i know she too, has misgivings and faults. But i think what you should realize is the fact that things will not always happen WHEN you want it. HIndi puedeng laging ON YOUR TERMS, ON YOUR CONDITIONS. siguro later on tinamaan ka na ng guilt, kaya you decided to fix your married life, but ang nangyari naman sayo is a case of "too late the hero" style.

Just let her be. Should the time comes that you would still both want to give your married life a try, then that's the time to act on it.

In God's perfect time, bro.

Goodluck and be good.
..... even if she's not,
..... even if the situation entices you to sin

if not for the marriage, then just for the sake of your two yr old son...

I agree!

>>>> lalo na etong part>>>>
Reminder lang din, lahat ng mistresses ay sweet, malambing, caring, maasikaso. Yun naman talga papel ng mistresses eh. Because they know they are living on borrowed time. Siempre lahat ng maganda, ipapakita sa iyo nun and she would always make it glaring na mas okay sha sa wife mo. Subukan mong pakasalan yan, im sure later on she wont be that same girl na laging caring sa yo!


Goodluck again.

bro, if you really love your wife, you should not give up that easily.

when she called you and asked you back, what did you do? you told her that your marriage is over, that you already found someone else! what do you think did she feel at this moment? she was hurt bro, big time! she opened herself to allow you back into her life, a point when she is most vulnerable and yet you hurt her badly.

that is why she seemed like a completely different person to you now. she erected walls to conceal her true feelings for you because she is afraid to get hurt again by you.

do not give up yet because behind those walls i know that she still loves you. she would not have asked you back in the first place if she doesn't love you anymore. she is just afraid that if she trusts you again, you might break her heart again also. just give her time...

for the meantime, you can do a lot of things to win her back. ligawan mo uli tol! show her that you deserve a second chance. take her out on a date, give her flowers, make her laugh, hang out with her, etc. the ball is in your hands, it is really up to you what you want to do with it. just don't forget to spend quality time with your son, not just to show your wife that you are a responsible father but to show your son that you love him.

goodluck bro...

is it really all my fault???

is it really all my fault???

hhmmm.. di naman, slight lang:s :s

Don't worry bro, im sure maaayos din lahat yan, siempre nasaktan mo si wifey eh... ikaw naman kase, nung time na gusto nyang ayusin na ang married life nyo, ayaw mo.. pinagmalaki mo pa ang mistress mo! di naman pedeng kung kelan mo gusto, dun lang maaayos ang relationship nyo.

I'm a wife too, bro..and siguro ang isa sa pinakamasakit na pedeng gawin ng hubby ko is to go astray and womanize. Bilib nga ako sa kanya kasi she even exerted effort to try and win you back. Kung sakin yun..:crazy: .hhhmmm, i wouldnt probably lift a finger to try and get back together...

pre try nyo mag marriage encounter.counselling,, wag ka tumawa,, akala ko dati wala na din pag-asa,, nambabae kasi ako,, nahuli ako,, tas ang hirap ibalik yung tiwala ni misis syempre.

kung ikaw nagkamali magpakumbaba ka at gawin mo lahat para mag-kaayos kayo, at sana talagang wala ka nang babae,, kasi kahit bali-baliktarin mo ang mundo,, ayusin mo ,, mag marriage encounter ka etc,, pero may contact ka pa sa chicks mo,, lokohan lang yan,, hehehe.

so payo ko na pakiusapan mo sya na lumapit kay osa isang marriage counsellor or marriage encounter group :) good luck pre :)

Para sa akin talunan, wala nang magawa at wala nang aasahan ang taong naggigive up, maybe kulang pa ang ginagawa mo, don't ever say na give up ka na kasi parang inamin muna rin na hanggang dun lang kaya mo, tsaka kung sino yung pinakasalan mo nun im sure sya pa rin yun hanggang ngayon, baka ikaw ang may hinahanap kaya akala mo iba na sya ngayon, try mong isipin din baka may pagkukulang ka rin, alam mo minsan kasi ang tao naka focus sa ibang tao, mag focus ka sa sarili mo, kung ano pagkakamali at pagkukulang mo dun ka magconcentrate, wag ka magconcentrate sa paguugali nya dahil di mo mababago ang ibang tao kung di mo mababago mismo sarili mo, doesn't matter kung ano ugali nya, pagbabago nya, at mga ginagawa nya, the matter is kung ano paguugali mo at mga ginagawa mo. Pag nakikita ni God effort naginagawa mo para lang magkaayos kyo im sure tutulungan Nya kayo na magkaayos dahil kahit sya im sure di nya gusto na maghiwalay kayo. DON'T GIVE UP!:)

basahin mo bro....inspirational story.........

EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR GOOD

There was once a King who had a wise advisor. The advisor followed the King everywhere, and his favorite advice was, “Everything happens for the good”. One day the King went hunting and had a little accident. He shot an arrow at his own foot and was injured. He asked the advisor what he thought about the accident, to which the advisor replied, “Everything happens for the good”. This time the King was really upset and ordered for his advisor to be put in prison. The King asked his advisor, “Now, what do you think?” The advisor again replied, “Everything happens for the good”. So the advisor remained in prison. The King later went on a hunting trip, this time without the advisor. The King was then captured by some cannibals. He was taken to the cannibals' camp where he was to be the evening meal for the cannibals. Before putting him into the cooking pot he was thoroughly inspected. The cannibals saw the wound on the King’s foot and decided to throw him back into the jungle. According to the cannibals' tradition, they would not eat anything that was imperfect. As a result the King was spared. The King suddenly realized what his advisor said was true. The advisor also escaped death because had he not been in prison, he would have followed the King on the hunting trip, and would have ended up in the cooking pot.

Success Principles

It is true that everything in life happens for a purpose, and always for our own good. If you think about it, all our past experiences actually happened to bring us to where we are today, and it is always for the good. All the past experiences makes us a better person. So, whatever challenges that we may face today, consider it happening to bring us to the next level.

HOPE THIS HELP........